If you’re considering anal sex with your partner, safety and preparation are paramount. You’ll want to keep these basic rules in mind.
12 ANAL SEX RULES:
ANAL SEX RULE #1 Talk About Having Anal Sex Before You Do It.
ANAL SEX RULE # 2 Keep The Anus Healthy And Clean
You can use an anal douche or enema to cleanse the anal passage, as both will leave the worries behind of uncleanliness.
Then set the mood by enjoying a bath together! Washing and stimulating the woman’s back and buttocks with plenty of leisurely love is the perfect way to help her to relax and build trust for a source of great pleasure. It’s also a great way to warm the anus up to the idea of being touched and penetrated.
ANAL SEX RULE #3 Begin With External Buttock Massage Before Anal Play
ANAL SEX RULE #4 Communicate Readiness When The Anal Muscles Are Physically Relaxed And You, Ladies, Are Emotionally Ready
When your finger is in to the first knuckle, make sure to check-in with your partner. How does this feel? Remind her to breathe slowly and deeply as this can also affect the anal muscles. Tensing the anus and then letting go is a good way of learning to relax it.
ANAL SEX RULE #5 Anal Sex Penetrative Toys Must Have A Flared Base So That If You Lose Your Grasp, It Will Not Slip Into The Rectum And Become Irretrievable
ANAL SEX RULE #6 To Avoid Health Risks; Use A Barrier For Anilingus, Finger Cot For Anal Fingering And A Condom For Anal Penetration
Before anal penetration, a woman can stimulate her man’s testicles while he is putting on his condom to help him maintain his erection and keep the mood seductive.
ANAL SEX RULE #7 Use Smaller Objects For Partial Penetration And Gradually Work Up To Larger Ones Before Full Penetration
ANAL SEX RULE #8 Never Go From Anal Play To Vaginal Play Without Washing Your Mouth, Finger, Sex Toy Or Changing A Condom
ANAL SEX RULE #9 Anal Penetration Requires Lots Of Lubricant
The anus needs to be thoroughly lubricated throughout the entire process of anal sex. Keep applying more lube as you go, checking in with your partner to make sure she’s enjoying a smoother, silkier experience. Also, always be sure to add lube to the tip of toys before inserting them anally.
ANAL SEX RULE #10 Always Start Anal Penetration Gently And In Slow Motion
Remember that the rectum is not a straight line, but tilts toward the front of the body in the beginning, then curves back as you go deeper and finally tilts toward the front of the body again at the deepest level. It’s not a race to get all the way inside, but rather a slow exploration that will satisfy you both.
ANAL SEX RULE #11: The Woman Is Always In Control Of Anal Penetration
ANAL SEX RULE #12 Relax And Have Fun
Try placing a hand on your lover’s heart to create an intimate energetic connection.
Remember, the best anal sex positions are the ones that work best for you and your lover!
Afterwards, talk to your partner about the experience, find out what they liked or didn’t like and most importantly, be sure to give them your feedback too.
A lot of curious couples wonder if ‘everybody’s doing it,’ and it turns out that anal sex is quite popular. In 2005, The Center for Disease Control (CDC) survey found that 40% of females ages 24-44 engaged in anal sex, and in the Journal of Sexual Medicine it is noted that the highest percentage of women in any age group who admitted to anal sex is now 46%, up from 33 % in 1992. In a survey of 100,000 Playboy readers, 61 percent of the women admitted to having tried anal sex.
The 3 E’s For Anal Sex Toys
To keep things simple, remember the three E’s of anal sex toys:
• Enhance love making for you and your partner.
• Excite your body as preparation for more intimacy.
• Enable orgasms to happen.
Toys enhance your lovemaking through better communication and the thrill of trying something new. They excite your body by preparing the anus for penetration. You can start off with small toys and work your way up, not necessarily all in the same session! Toys also enable orgasms, such as the use of anal beads to stimulate the G-spot into full arousal.
Take the uneasiness out of anal sex by following these rules, and always have you and your partner’s comfort and pleasure at the top of your agenda. With great communication and careful preparation, anal sex can be a wonderful release and an incredibly sensual experience!
To find out more about the pleasure of anal sex, watch Dr. Ava’s Guide To Anal Sex For Women, which features live demonstrations of all the information above, plus many interesting and provocative positions to try. Watch the trailer here.
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